Why I Disappeared for 3 Months (And What It Taught Me About Finding Balance)

If you’ve noticed this space has been quiet since April, you’re right. For a blog that champions consistency, a three-month silence can feel like an eternity.

I want to be clear about why I stepped away. It wasn’t burnout or a lack of ideas. In fact, my drafts folder has never been fuller. The truth is, I made a conscious choice to press pause on the blog because my life entered a brand-new season that demanded my full attention.

After two years of freelancing, I started a new, demanding full-time job. Around the same time, my beautiful baby girl became much more active, needing a different kind of presence from me as a father. On top of that, I even launched a new mentorship hub.

Trying to juggle all of that felt like an impossible balancing act. The experience didn’t just drain my time; it completely reshaped my understanding of what “finding balance” truly means.

The Unending Quest for Finding Balance

For years, I, like many of us, chased the myth of a perfectly balanced life. I pictured a scale with “Work” on one side and “Life” on the other, held in a delicate, perfect equilibrium.

But life isn’t a static scale. My last three months proved that. How could I possibly balance a new job, an active baby, pastoring a growing Youth church, my marriage, my personal health, and this blog, all at once? The scale would always be tipped. Trying to keep it level wasn’t just unproductive; it was a recipe for guilt, making me feel like I was failing at everything simultaneously.

This struggle made me realize that,

“The goal shouldn’t be balance. It should be rhythm.”

Ditching Balance for Rhythm: A Lesson in Life Seasons

Balance is a static state; rhythm is a dynamic flow. Life isn’t meant to be perfectly balanced at all times. Instead, it moves in seasons, each with its own unique demands and priorities. Acknowledging the season you’re in is the key to true effectiveness and peace.

• The New Beginnings Season: For the past three months, I was in a season of new beginnings. My priority was to establish myself in my new role and be a present, engaged father and husband. My focus had to be narrow and deep. That meant other things, including this blog, had to be on a downbeat in life’s rhythm. I wasn’t failing the blog. I was succeeding in the most important season of my life.
• The Creative Shift Season: Interestingly, pausing the blog didn’t stop my creative energy. It just changed its rhythm. The energy I would have put into writing here was channeled into building my new mentorship hub and bringing some of my writing projects closer to completion; a different but equally fulfilling creative endeavor.
• The Return Season: Now, the rhythm is shifting again. My daughter has started crèche, bringing a new sense of peace and structure to our home. I’ve found my footing at work. Space has naturally opened up, and the energy to write for you all has returned with force. This is a concept I’ve explored in daily productivity with the ultradian rhythm, and I’ve learned it applies just as much to the macro-seasons of our lives.

Why It’s So Hard to ‘Start’ Again

Here’s an honest admission: I could have come back a month ago. The “Return” season had technically begun. But I felt a strange inertia. The longer the silence went on, the harder it felt to break it. The pressure to come back with something perfect can be paralyzing, a familiar feeling that often fuels writer’s block.

This taught me the final lesson: a comeback isn’t a single, grand event. It’s the simple decision to start again, even imperfectly. This post is that decision.

What’s Next?

This break was one of the most productive pauses I’ve ever taken. It taught me that finding balance isn’t about doing everything at once. It’s about giving your all to the right things at the right time.

I’m thrilled to be back, and I’m kicking things off with a promise: a new post every day for the next seven days. We’ll be diving into our favourite topics with a renewed sense of clarity and purpose.

It’s good to be back.

Now, I want to hear from you: What “season” of life are you in right now, and what are you choosing to focus on? Let me know in the comments.